In Zeiten wachsender Konkurrenz werden hohe Erwartungen an Einzelpersonen gestellt. Nicht selten fühlen sich Menschen deshalb unter Druck und tendieren vor allem im Beruf zu einem Idealismus. Dies gilt insbesondere für Betroffene einer sozialen Phobie, denn sie kämpfen ohnehin mit Angstgefühlen und bauen aus Sorge vor dem Nicht-Genügen sich selbst Druck auf. Sie können so in eine ständige Spirale des Noch-Besser-Machen-Müssens geraten. Der Selbsthilfeverband "intakt e.V." möchte Wege aus diesem Problem heraus aufzeigen, besonders für Situationen, in denen die "üblichen" Ratschläge nicht weiterhelfen.
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