Wie wir miteinander umgehen, welche Sprache wir als respektvolle Mitmenschen gebrauchen, was wir also als richtig oder falsch betrachten, ist das Resultat gesellschaftlicher Prozesse und damit stetig im Wandel. Darum muss man immer wieder mal eine Standortbestimmung machen und alte Zöpfe abschneiden, ganz im Sinn von „Kill a stupid rule“.
Was im Bereich des Change- und Innovations-Management funktioniert, geht nämlich auch bei den Umgangsformen. Denn genauso, wie Firmen mit der „Kill a stupid rule“-Methode Regeln und Abläufe in ihrem Unternehmen in Frage stellen, macht es die Gesellschaft im Laufe der Zeit mit den Regeln und Abläufen der Etikette. Der einzige
Was im Bereich des Change- und Innovations-Management funktioniert, geht nämlich auch bei den Umgangsformen. Denn genauso, wie Firmen mit der „Kill a stupid rule“-Methode Regeln und Abläufe in ihrem Unternehmen in Frage stellen, macht es die Gesellschaft im Laufe der Zeit mit den Regeln und Abläufen der Etikette. Der einzige
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